The Gantt Report
Quit playing with your relationships and marriages! I say that because it seems to me relationships are becoming more and more like games.
Don’t take my word for it but you have The Dating Game, The Newlywed Game, The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Millionaire Matchmakers, Flava of Love and other relationship game type shows.
In order for an athlete to excel in a game, he or she usually needs to practice.
The same thing happens in relationships.
Couples seeking to relate will more than likely practice like they play. Say the “courtship” period is practice and marriage is the end game. If a woman nags you during the courtship, she will nag you if you get married. If a man cheats and sleeps with other women during the courtship, he will cheat during the marriage. If a woman rejects her man romantically during the courtship, she will most likely reject her man in a marriage. If your partner will lie during a courtship, they will lie if the relationship progresses.
Nowadays many couples feel they have a lifetime of practice that includes failed relationships, lying partners and male and female gold diggers. Couples like that sometimes dismiss courtship and jump right into marriage when they find their soul mate.
Why act married in a courtship when you can be married for real? Boyfriends and girlfriends are not spouses. They are not even engaged but courting couples are expected to be monogamous, to help each other financially and other ways, to endear and enjoy each other’s children and family members and to protect and possibly provide for each other occasionally.
Every relationship and marriage is different. What works for you may not work for me or vice versa.
An NFL football team can determine the starting players during pre-season practice. Future husbands and wives can judge each other’s worthiness during a period where they get to know each other.
Getting to know your partner can take a considerable amount of time. You have to see your man, or woman, in good times, bad times, richer times, poorer times, healthy times and in times when one partner or the other is ill.
How will your relationship practice partner be when family is around? How are they on holidays? Can the two of you travel together and enjoy it? Are you sexually compatible?
Well, you normally play like you practice. If your partner has a twinkle in their eyes and a smile on their face, you may have hit a home run in the courtship period.
If the phone calls stopped and your partner is never ever available to be with you, you may want to evaluate how good practice was before you place that person in the starting rotation of life!
In relationships and marriages, people will play like they practice! If they can’t score in practice once you get married there will be no touchdowns on the marriage field and there will be no fireworks to celebrate any victory of love!
