“Pushed!”

 

The opportunity for victory is provided by the enemy.

Sun Tzu’s Art of War

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.

Albert Einstein

 

Have you ever had someone to take a chance on you?

push

Nearly twenty-five years ago, through no fault of my own, I was unemployed. Terrified, I applied for unemployment, purchased a word processor, and started typing and mailing hundreds of resumes. America was in the cusp of a brutal economy then, and like now, few companies were hiring. Scared organizations would not be interested in hiring an “over the hill” person like me. At the time, was thirty-one years old.

Applied for an entry level position at a “progressive” company.

Passed the “pen and paper” test. Passed the telephonic interview. Passed the initial interview. Passed the second interview. Passed the third interview. Passed the final interview.

Way to go, Andrea. Knew in my heart I was going to get that job!

Oops—-Houston, we got a problem.

Have you ever “passed the smell test” yet did not get the spoils?

Say what?

Collectively, everyone who interviewed me agreed that I was an awesome candidate, however, everyone felt that I was “too good” for the job (detect some sarcasm).

Come again!

Throughout the hiring hierarchy of this “progressive” company, everyone who conducted the interviews was white with the exception of one lone person who, unbeknownst to me, fought vigorously with management because she objected to their subjective perceptions about me. This stalwart vehemently pointed out that I had “played by the rules” and “earned” the right to be hired for that position!

In other words, against great political risk, backlash, and the probability of falling out of corporate’s grace, Jackie Ireland courageously laid her career on the line for an unknown commodity—-me. Imagine, a stranger personifying a “profile in courage” when she really did not have to. Imagine this “Rosa Parks“soldier vociferously fighting for justice when others would have acquiesced and quietly bowed to the unjust whims of the status quo.

Got the job!

The adage “association brings about assimilation” is so true. One of the residual effects of Jackie becoming my supervisor was listening to her “pushy” and unorthodox language. Found myself listening to business principles that were foreign to me. Her dialogue always intrigued me because she was the first woman that I had ever met who advocated for women-owned businesses.

At the time, thought that her ideas and platform were downright foolish. At the time, sometimes found it irritating to coexist with her because she relentlessly extolled the virtues of female proprietorship. At the time, did not truly appreciate the depths of her narrative and insights. At the time, did not grasp her vision, relevancy, and enlightenment. At the time, did not understand her “pearls of wisdom.” At the time, did not realize her omnipresence. At the time, did not know how much I would grow to love her tenacious determination. And, at the time, did not detect how she was silently strengthening me to envision beyond my horizon.

Quickly learned who was really “stuck on stupid”—-and it was me!

Like most women, was “programmed” to think that a teaching job or finding a man was a woman’s ultimate utopia, fate, and destiny. Heck, not Jackie! Her eclectic personality and “gung ho” philosophy was intoxicatingly refreshing as she “pushed” and inspired ambitious and smart women like me to leave the confines and constraints of a job. Somehow, she felt that each of us could emulate, imitate, and duplicate Madam C.J. Walker’s brilliant business model, quest, and success.

Meanwhile…

Everyone within the hiring hierarchy of this “progressive” company was right. I was “too good” for that position (detect a hint of cynicism) and within months set my sights on another position that was becoming available within the Human Resources Department.

Oops—-Houston, we got another problem!

Seemingly, everyone again thought that I was “too good” (been down this road before) for this position and was doggedly determined to thwart me from getting it. Unfortunately, did not have the safety net of a “Rosa Parks” to act as my ombudsman because Jackie had left the company. So, the devil’s advocates felt at liberty to wield their satanic powers and agenda to derail and undermine me. On their first attempt, they won. However, with the passage of time, justice prevailed and on my second attempt, I finally succeeded.

Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha.

It is worth noting that even though the terms and conditions of the job remained the same, I did not receive the same pay as my “white” predecessor!

Oh, well.

Meanwhile…

Though Jackie was pleased with her protégé’s corporate success she annoyingly kept “pushing.” Like a pied piper, she kept sowing seeds into my spirit regarding ownership. Intentionally forced myself to become oblivious to all of her unrequested and repeated suggestions and inferences. Unlike Jackie, I was fiercely determined to hunker down in corporate America with the goal and illusions of “crashing the glass ceiling!”

Wanted to sorely prove that in spite of blatant “isms” I could move on to the next level of corporate life!

However, Jackie’s radar was accurate. She instinctively knew that one day I would reach my “diminished capacity” at the company as she was acutely aware and cognizant that I was surrounded by “Machiavellian jackasses.” She correctly surmised that my cadre of abilities, talents, skills, gifts, and untapped potential would not fully be utilized, appreciated, nurtured, or rewarded in a universe filled with vipers, cobras, and rattlers! Finally, she knew that once the time was ripe, my doubts, skepticisms, and blinders would rapidly dissipate and I would come to terms with the inevitable—-that I had been preordained to discover another path in life.

Meanwhile…

In spite of the insurmountable hurdles that I had to “jump” through at corporate, I remained vigilant and so determined to soar. Kept noticing, however, that my peers were able to easily take the “elevator” to success while I had to frequently take the “stairs.”

So, as Jackie had predicted, corporate life had begun to lose its luster as each day I grew weary from the constant grind of having to prove, fight, and justify my existence, fairness, and my worth. Quickly became disillusioned and disgusted from the blatant injustices, cruel dual standards, and double-speak. My enthusiasm was irrevocably broken! My hopes and dreams for a corporate life had ended!

Meanwhile…

Jackie kept “pushing.”

And then, eureka—-it clicked!

Put aside the ghosts of negativity and the “shackles off my thinking” and dove into “entrepreneurship.” Just celebrated my eighth anniversary of existence and been “wealthy” every since!

Don’t misunderstand. I am not independently “wealthy” in the context of dollars and cents. However, by God placing Jackie into my life, I have reconsidered the axioms regarding work choices, careers, titles, and status and learned that none of them are important. Learned from Jackie that the purpose of working is not to “make money” or “get rich,” but rather to secure an existence that is harmonious with one’s deepest beliefs! Learned that success has different meanings at different ages and stages of life. Learned that what’s really important is finding and keeping adequate space for love. Finally, learned from her the “doughnuts” theory—-there are folks with a lot of “dough” but they are totally “nuts.”

Thanks, Jackie, for “pushing” me to live passionately for today and purposefully for tomorrow!

 

4 COMMENTS

  1. Hello Ms. Wilson: You are an incredible person to leave such a sweet note on this “special” day. I thank you from the bottom of my “heart” for your expression of kindness.

    Andrea

  2. Andrea, greetings!!! Yes, I definitely agree with Ms. Wilson, you are an amazing writer and a wonderful woman to share your corporate experiences. In fact, you are absolutely right about Jackie Ireland–I currently work with her and know her personally!! If you want anyone working on your behalf–it’s Jackie. She is a woman of God and definitely an advocate for women’s rights! Just In general, she believes in doing the right thing. God sends us angels as we fulfill our journeys and Jackie Ireland is one of them!!

  3. Hello Ms. White: If you work with Jackie, then I know that you are a fan from Baltimore, Maryland. WOW! Never knew that I would get a readership beyond Orlando.

    From the bottom of my heart, please know that I am delighted to know that we share the friendship of a beautiful woman—Jackie. Only wished that others had the pleasure to enjoy true love and devotion as we had.

    “Show me your friends and I can predict your future” is so true. Because I allowed a positive person in my life, I was able to multiply my successes.

    Again, thanks for reading my column and tell B’more hello!

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.