The Gantt Report
I only gave my children one bit of advice about relationships. I told my son to avoid sleeping with women that he didn’t like and I told my daughter to never take money or things that money can buy from men that she didn’t like.
After a 23 year marriage, I’m single now and oftentimes I run into women seeking a husband or a companion.
I am always amazed when women, or men, seek material things or actions from a potential partner that they would refuse to share themselves.
For example, I sometimes have to travel for my business and if I say I have to attend an event in Phoenix or a business meeting in Paris, France a woman that vI just met or don’t really know will say to me, “I want to go!”
And dumb me will respond, “OK!” Yes, my woman or my wife can go anywhere that I go but I’m thinking a new friend will pay her own way until our relationship grows to the point where I will handle all travel costs.
The point is, a man that will take you on a $5000 or $10,000 vacation either loves you or is a fool. He is not a new friend trying to impress you.
Now, if a man says to that same woman “I need $10,000 to buy some new equipment for my business will you co-sign on a loan for me?” or “Will you get me an American Express card so I can by some business supplies?”, the woman will respond, “You must be a damn fool.”
The moral of this is no woman or man should do anything for someone they just met if that person will not do the same thing for them.
If you don’t know, sex, not even good sex, is worth $10,000. Love is priceless but a mere roommate, so to speak, is not that expensive.
When contemplating a new relationship both partners should start off with “baby steps”. You should do what comes from your heart and that way you can be happy regardless of what your new friend does or does not do.
It’s good to marry someone with Oprah Winfrey or Bob Johnson money but it’s better to be with someone that loves you, wants, you, respects you, protects you and so on.
Asking someone you hardly know to spend money on you is like asking someone you don’t know to allow you to perform forbidden sex acts with them when you don’t know their HIV status! Neither is a good idea.
There are just as many male fools with money as there are female fools with bad romance.
If you don’t know what a good man or a good woman is, chances are you’ll never find one.
Each of us has a soul mate out there somewhere waiting to unite with us. Keep looking for Mr. or Ms. Goodbar and don’t be too quick to settle for a Nutty Buddy or a Baby Ruth!
