Every Day is Father’s Day

The Gantt Report

Every day is “Father’s Day” and it doesn’t matter if you think he is good or bad because the truth of the matter is that all Dads are both.

If your Dad spanked you, hurt you, wasn’t there when you wanted him or needed him, was too strict on you, put your mother in check when she needed to be put there or whatever other reason kids give to not have the very best relationship with Dad, has to be reconsidered. It is easy to recall or say something that your Dad did wrong but it seems difficult if not impossible to remember all of the good things Dads do.

If your Dad was around for all of your life, whether he was with your mama or not, let me tell you some of the things your Daddy did that should be respected and remembered.

Now, children were taken care of, if they are alive, and I can explain how you enjoyed so many comforts at home that seems like fantasy if you want to parrot what someone has told you.

OK, when parents live together most, certainly not all, mothers that have Dad’s help and support, don’t pay mortgages, they don’t pay utilities, they don’t pay insurance premiums, they don’t finance trips and vacations, they don’t “protect” you when the neighborhood bully threatens you, they will cosign but they don’t pay tuition costs and when baby mama wants to get you out of jail and has a lawyer that is ripping her off and pleading out instead of fighting for her child, it is Daddy that knows the system and how to get the child justice.

Mamas don’t teach you how to ride a bike or how to shoot a gun. It was Daddy, most of the time, that taught you how to drive a car even though he knew you would scare him to near death.

Children raised by mothers only, usually have the emotional traits that their mother has. However, if you are brave, if you demand respect, if you believe in yourself, if you share or if you care those traits come from good Dads.

Let’s go somewhere else. Let’s consider some things that Dads are accused of that have no bases of fact whatsoever.

OK, all men are different. When you hear that your father is “just like those N-words he hangs out with” that is impossible and is only said to disparage a Dad. Whatever your Dad is, that is what YOUR Dad is and it has nothing to do with his friends and associates.

If someone children trust says “your Daddy ain’t gon never be nothing” they might believe it but mamas don’t have a damn clue about what a man will become or what a Dad will do or won’t do.

Personally, I don’t like baby makers that don’t try to take care of their babies. But even they have a right to love and be loved by their children.

So don’t wait until Father’s Day to show Dad some love. More than likely, whatever he has will be yours one day.

Children, your daddy loves you. He loves you the best way he can and Dad’s love their kids in different ways.

The good fathers will defend their children with his life and at the same time stay out his children’s way if that is what you want him to do.

Both of my parents are deceased and I miss them both but I was named after my father and there are people in my family that still call me “little Lucius” up to this day, sixty years after my birth.

Children, you have to honor your mother and father. If they divorce, disagree, or disavow, that is between them. Don’t let anything like that make you feel you have to love and respect one or the other.

I’m no different, I loved my mama and I’m smart enough to know everyday has always been “Mother’s Day” and mama comes first as she should.

But don’t let anyone turn you against your Dad. Fathers should get the same chance to love you that mama gets. If your father is up in age, his children may be the only things of value he has in the last days of his life!