DEAR DATING QUEEN,
I went through my girlfriend’s phone and found out she is cheating on me with my sister. I saw texts and photos of them kissing and stuff. I love both of them but, don’t know who to confront first. Should I stay with my girlfriend?
Please help me.
Feeling Betrayed.
DEAR FEELING BETRAYED,
First of all you shouldn’t have gone through your girlfriend’s phone, as that’s invasion of privacy!
You must confront your girlfriend and sister together.
Invite them out to a restaurant. Call them up and say “I want to celebrate some good news with my 2 favorite ladies, so meet me at_____ restaurant” At the restaurant, be calm because you won’t get anything resolved by yelling. Inform your girlfriend and sister you are aware of their relationship. Ask how long they’ve been seeing each other. Ask your girlfriend to choose between you and your sister. If she chooses you, ask your sister whether she can respect that decision and your relationship.
If you and your girlfriend decide to stay together and be in a monogamous relationship be sure you are able to forgive one another and start over. If either of you can’t trust again, then end the relationship.
DEAR DATING QUEEN,
I enjoy going on a date with someone new, as it provides me an opportunity to get to know them better. But, it irritates me when my date texts during our date. I feel unimportant and disrespected.
I don’t know how to address the situation without seeming jealous.
Sincerely,
Irritated.
DEAR IRRITATED,
Rest assured you are not the only one who is irritated by someone texting while on a date.
Prior to your date, inform him/her how texting makes you feel. Let him/her know you value the time you spend together, and how texting can interfere with your getting to know one another.
You could say for example: “I look forward to getting to know you better. Let’s not get distracted by our cell phones. How about us putting them on vibrate and only answering if it’s an emergency.”
If your date continues to text while on a date, end the date immediately. Your time is valuable and your date needs to respect it.
