Ask The Dating Queen: I Miss My Ex But, He’s A Big Spender

DEAR DATING QUEEN,

I’m thinking about getting back together with my ex-boyfriend. We broke up due to his bad spending habits and lay off.   I had to move back home with my parents.  Now, my ex-boyfriend is working again. I want to move back in but, I’m scared of his bad spending habits. He won’t save money for a rainy day.

What should I do?

Financially Savvy EX-GIRLFRIEND

DEAR FINANCIALLY SAVVY EX,

You and your ex-boyfriend should have a serious discussion about money alone and with a financial advisor.  Saving money and living within in your means is imperative in today’s economy.

Don’t get back with him until you’ve noticed some improvement in his spending habits. If he remains the same, save your money and get a place of your own. You can’t afford to be in a relationship with someone who will drag you down.

DEAR DATING QUEEN,

I’m a successful, busy, professional who doesn’t have time to search for love. The bar scene is unfavorable and more often than not, filled with loud music, and drunk and dysfunctional people who lack substance. I’m looking for a long term relationship and not a one night stand. I’ve tried internet dating but, I’m disappointed when I meet in person. I’ve gone to church many times and still can’t find anyone.

Sincerely,

Frustrated.

DEAR FRUSTRATED,

I, as well as many others, understand your frustration. Don’t give up on your goal. According to Robert J. Collier, “Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out.”

There is someone out there waiting to meet you. Make yourself available. Get out of your comfort zone. Invest in your dating life. Reorganize your schedule and make dating a priority. Shop on a different side of town. Skip the drive thru’s and go inside. Smile when entering a building. Take the initiative. Speak to people say “Hi, how are you?” Engage in small talk. Talk about the weather, ask for the time.

You never know, someone could be admiring you but, is too shy to speak.

Explore different venues.  Go to the gym, health food store, coffee shop, bookstore, library, park, zoo, museum, art gallery, happy hour or a jazz bar.

Lots of luck in your search.   Again, do not give up on your goal!